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Rewriting Your Lifestyle: The Power of Setting Boundaries After Bariatric Surgery
Mar 12, 2025
Rewriting Your Lifestyle: The Power of Setting Boundaries After Bariatric Surgery

 Undergoing bariatric surgery is a transformative step toward achieving a healthier lifestyle. However, the journey doesn't end with the procedure; it requires continuous effort, self-awareness, and, importantly, the ability to set personal boundaries. Many individuals struggle with people-pleasing behaviors, often neglecting their own needs in favor of others. This tendency can hinder post-surgery success and overall well-being.

The People-Pleasing Dilemma

People-pleasers often say "yes" to others, even when it means saying "no" to themselves. This behavior stems from a desire for validation and love but can lead to self-neglect. In the context of weight management, constantly prioritizing others can result in a lack of time and energy for self-care, meal preparation, and exercise. This pattern not only affects physical health but also reinforces a victim mentality, making it challenging to take control of one's own life.

The Importance of Setting Boundaries

Establishing clear boundaries is crucial for personal growth and health. It allows individuals to allocate time for essential activities like cooking nutritious meals, engaging in physical activity, and practicing mindfulness. By setting boundaries, you communicate to yourself and others that your health and well-being are priorities. This shift empowers you to take control of your lifestyle and supports sustainable weight loss.

Strategies for Overcoming People-Pleasing Tendencies

  1. Self-Reflection: Identify situations where you tend to prioritize others over yourself. Recognize the impact of these actions on your health and happiness.

  2. Practice Saying No: Understand that declining requests is a form of self-respect, not selfishness. It allows you to focus on your own needs without guilt.

  3. Schedule "Me Time": Dedicate specific times in your day for self-care activities, such as meal prepping, exercising, or relaxing. Treat these appointments with the same importance as any other commitment.

  4. Seek Support: Engage with communities or support groups that understand your journey. Sharing experiences can provide encouragement and accountability.

Recognizing and Addressing Food Addiction

Food addiction is a significant barrier to maintaining a healthy lifestyle post-surgery. It involves using food as a coping mechanism for stress, emotions, or other underlying issues. Recognizing the signs of food addiction is the first step toward recovery. These signs may include:

  • Cravings for specific foods despite feeling full
  • Eating to the point of discomfort
  • Experiencing guilt or shame after eating
  • Hiding eating habits from others

If you identify with these behaviors, seeking professional guidance is essential. At The Rewrite Lifestyle Center, we offer resources and support to help you overcome food addiction and build a healthier relationship with food.

Embracing Intuitive Eating

Transitioning to intuitive eating can be a powerful tool in your post-surgery journey. This approach encourages listening to your body's hunger and fullness cues, promoting a balanced and guilt-free relationship with food. Research indicates that intuitive eating can lead to improved psychological health and sustainable weight management.

Conclusion

Breaking free from people-pleasing habits and setting personal boundaries are vital components of a successful post-bariatric surgery journey. By prioritizing self-care, recognizing signs of food addiction, and adopting intuitive eating practices, you can rewrite your lifestyle for lasting health and happiness.

Are You Struggling with Food Addiction? Take the First Step Today!

If cravings, binge eating, or emotional eating are holding you back, you’re not alone. Food addiction can impact long-term weight loss, especially after gastric sleeve surgery and bypass surgery. At The Rewrite Lifestyle Center, we help you break free from stress eating and build a sustainable, healthy relationship with food.

✅ Discover if you're facing food addiction and get expert guidance on bariatric nutrition, meal plans, and support from Shenelle Coplien and the Bariatric Rewrite team. Your journey to lasting weight loss starts here!

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Daniella Hott-Barham

Shenelle and her team have big hearts and are truly here to help people. In a little while over a week I'm down 5 pounds just by cutting out the ultra processed protein snacks and artificial sweeteners. She is the real deal and won't steer you wrong!

Danaye Henken

I found Shenelle and the Rewrite just after my 1 year sleeveiversary. I was training for my first marathon taking guidance from a nutritionist who is also a runner but knew nothing about life after bariatric surgery. I had regained 16lbs in the span of about a month and was miserable. I started Shenelle a program and INSTANTLY felt like I was home. The community, the support and the program. It was hard work, but the kind that’s rewarding because it changes your life. In 4 months I went from 188lbs to 149lbs and I’m about to run my SECOND marathon. I’m stronger physically but also mentally. After being in this community for a while, Shenelle offered me the opportunity to give back to the same people who helped me. I’m proud to say I’m one of the coaches here now. Sharing my story and helping people on their journey to living their best life.

Kathleen Sloan Holdsworth

I was struggling from 25 lb regain 7 years post surgery. My weight-loss team abandoned me and offered me zero help. I was afraid I would put on all the weight I lost (98 lbs) if I didn't find help.
I joined Bariatric Rewrite and learned new techniques for someone years out from my surgery. The peer support and community is a huge portion of what I need to keep me on track. There is a no excuses attitude with the program. I need that to  keep honest with myself and the scale.
I recommend the Rewrite for anyone on the surgical journey. It is essential for learning how your new body works and how to maintain the progress one obtains with WLS. I lost the regain and feel great, once again.

Mary Christiansen

Rewrite Is A Life Changing Program!!!! I am 6 years post sleeve surgery, had regained 28 lbs and was not motivated or feeling well and had no idea how to regain control!!! After joining this program at the beginning of December I am down 10 lbs, have set goals and I am looking forward with Excitement, Encouragement and a passion for My Health and well being!!!! There is Hope!!! Thank You!!!! @The Rewrite!!!!

Rita Hernandez

If you have had or are planning to have bariatric surgery then you’re in the right place. Since I joined 10 months ago I found the support I needed to be successful. I’m down 100 pounds in 11 months post surgery and I could not have done it without the Bariatric Rewrite Academy, my coaches Shenelle and Seda and all the community. Thank you!
 

Mary Parton-Bultmann

I have been with Bariatric re-write for over a year and it has been life-changing. I am a revision patient and never had support following surgery. I have learned how to fuel my body appropriately. I have also been able to address my food addiction in a safe, caring and knowledgeable community.. I’ve lost 172 pounds with Bariatric re-write guiding me and educating me and never abandoning me in the process. If you’re looking for real support following bariatric surgery, using a GLP-1, or just trying to wrap your head around how to fuel your body appropriately. Bariatric re-write is where it’s at.

Nicki Mitchell

Joining the Bariatric Rewrite has been a game changer. You have 24/7 access to community support. These folks know what your going through! There is so much education, support, and just great people. All positive and well worth it!

Colleen Myers

The academy has made such a difference in my life. I started my journey with Bariatric Rewrite last august pre-op. Shenelle guided me through a pre-op diet, supported me when I got my surgery date and helped me navigate the post surgery eating. She continues to be supportive as I continue my struggle as food addiction. The group chat is supportive when you run into different situations related to weight loss or about something about being a food addiction. I’m so grateful for the program and how it had changed my life!

Susan Buck Pickett

The acceptance and judgment free environment while learning to care for myself. they educate and understand. they have this positive energy that makes you feel like you can do anything!

Analu Perez

Even though I have been with The Rewrite program for a few weeks, I made the best choice ever! I have been thinking about going back and forth for a while and I am glad I am here. The amount of support and knowledge I am learning about the food I have been eating and how to be able to control my food addiction is such a powerful experience. It's rough but like Shenelle and Danaye says it gets tough at first but it will get easier!

Shauwan Daniels

I have been with Shenelle and Seda for less than a month and have lost 9 pounds. I love the support and resources provided!

Ashley Dean

I started working with Shenelle and Danaye just three weeks ago, and I've already lost 12 pounds! Shenelle has completely shifted my understanding of food—she breaks down how your body actually processes whole, nutritious foods versus the junk we often consume. It's eye-opening!

What truly sets Shenelle apart is the time and attention she dedicates to each of her clients. She doesn’t just offer advice; she supports us every step of the way, guiding us toward success with honesty and integrity. There’s no sugar-coating, just real talk and practical advice. She makes the tough parts of life and health feel fun and empowering. Raw-dogging life with Shenelle isn’t just a catchphrase—it’s a lifestyle. If you're looking for someone who will give it to you straight and help you thrive, she's the one to work with!

Amanda Caldwell

There isn't enough good to say about this company. I joined the Acadamy in Nov 2023 and I will be a life long member. I have learned so much from Shenelle Coplien; she really motivated me to care about myself and to take back control of my life and health from my addictions. I will never be able to thank her enough. I encourage anyone who is struggling with their health and/or food addictions to take a chance and see what Bariatric Rewrite can teach you.

Darla Meister

I signed up for write academy on the very beginning and it has changed my life . I have learned so many new healthy habits . I would recommend this program to anyone having trouble navigating the bariatric lifestyle . shenelle and seda have changed me forever and sarah gives me great cooking tips please give them a shot they will change your life too!!!

Jessica Newcomb

I joined the Bariatric Rewrite about a month ago. I had surgery 5 years ago and never got to my goal. I was regaining weight pretty quickly until I found Shenelle. In a month I’ve lost over 10 pounds after I was coached and taught how to deal with my food addiction. This community is amazing and keeps me accountable. The only regret I have is I didn’t have this community 5 years ago!

Lauren Mozuch

I don't even know where to begin. The Rewrite has been absolutely life changing for me. I started with them several weeks prior to VSG surgery and started making changes before my pre-op diet. Through this whole journey I have felt armed with information and totally supported. I would recommend the rewrite lifestyle center to anyone struggling before during or after a weight loss journey of any kind. Whether is facing your food addiction or struggling to get in water and protein, or just finding out who you are after weightloss. The rewrite has your back.❤️

Mary Bolen Doyle

I signed with the Bariatric Rewrite 5mo ago thinking I couldn't lose weight. Turns out I just needed the guidance and support I found there. I've learned to deal with my messes up relationship with food and am now down 31lbs!

Billie Burhite

You know when something lands in your lap and it changes your life? That is exactly what Shenelle and The Rewrite did for me! I went from being a very confused bariatric patient to someone who was taught how to live a life without fear and anxiety. I eat a whole foods diet, I have eliminated all artificial sweeteners and I have won the battle with cravings. Well that's kind of a lie... The only thing that I crave are fresh, juicy, crunchy and healthy fruits and vegetables. My food addiction monster is under control and I am winning!

I not only hit my goal of 150 but I have continued to lose and my next goal is 132!

Thank you Shenelle for the giving me the tools to live my new amazing life!!!

Colleen Myers

The academy has made such a difference in my life. I started my journey with Bariatric Rewrite last august pre-op. Shenelle guided me through a pre-op diet, supported me when I got my surgery date and helped me navigate the post surgery eating. She continues to be supportive as I continue my struggle as food addiction. The group chat is supportive when you run into different situations related to weight loss or about something about being a food addiction. I’m so grateful for the program and how it had changed my life!

Sarah Genens

The Rewrite's four-month program has been transformative in my journey to combat food addiction and through bariatric surgery. The program provided invaluable support, practical strategies, and a compassionate environment that truly made a difference.

The coaches are knowledgeable and attentive, guiding me through every step with understanding and encouragement. The structured approach helped me identify triggers, develop healthier habits, and build a strong foundation for my new lifestyle.

I feel empowered and equipped to face my challenges, and I'm incredibly grateful for the support I received. If you’re considering this program, I highly recommend it. It’s a life-changing experience that sets you up for success!

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